We’d all like to have greater access to subtle realms and increase our ability to see through surface confusion and into core confidence and fearlessness. To work this as a process, I choose to face an issue I have been avoiding at the interpersonal level with someone I care deeply about. Just the resolve to ‘face into’ the situation liberates incredible energy for me.
Drawing upon MatrixWorks principles, I remember that chaos and conflict often need a larger matrix than just the conflict pair, so I ask a second friend to hold space for me and my conflict partner. She agrees. More energy is released.
The next step is my internal preparation. Here are three questions I use to prime my inner pump and prepare for new possibilities:
1) a) What awareness or personal value will help me drop my defensiveness and truly open to a genuine curiosity about our misunderstanding?
b) Answer: Remembering the basic goodness of myself and the ‘other’, and being willing to take 100% responsibility for myself, my actions and intentions, and to sincerely care about my impact on my friend.
2) a) What resources can I draw upon to upgrade my ability to “listen well to feedback” about my blind spots?
b) Answer: I can practice something I recently learned about 3 levels of Listening. These listening levels are: 1. radical receptivity; 2. total interest; and 3. deeper currents and depth.
3) a) What mindfulness or meditation practice can I engage in daily to create a field of positive potential for this meeting?
b) Answer: I choose a short, 15 minute practice using the Tara mantra and commit to doing this every day to strengthen my intention for a deeper relationship with my “friend-conflict-partner”.
Through this process I have greater trust in the restoration of right relationship and in the power of chaos and conflict to create the sweet spot of Freedom.
Share with us: How do you ‘surf the edge of chaos and find this sweet spot in your life’?